In his relationship series for RUF at Ole Miss, Les Newsom talks about the curses of the fall.
One of them being insecurity, or shame.
In Genesis, Adam and Eve hide from God because they are ashamed of their nakedness. In the gospels, the writers continually point out that Jesus was stripped of his clothes at the cross and hung there basically naked, bearing our sin, our cross and our shame.
There is no need to be insecure anymore in our relationships with others, because our insecurity and shame was done away with and carried ultimately at the cross.
Our needs have been met in Christ, and it is because of that fact that we are free from shame and insecurity; because we have the most ultimate security in our ultimate relationship to God through Christ.
Now any insecurity we feel in our relationships isn’t a question of what the other person is not doing to meet our needs; but what are we not believing about the Gospel?
Feel free to add your thoughts.